Monday, October 10, 2011

Let Your Spouse Know

A few days ago one of the readings in my daily reading The Word for Today, was about husbands and wives.

We have been married for 33 years and we have had more than our fair share of ups and downs, in fact times when it would appear that the marriage was over but when it all boiled down to it there was something deeper than what we even saw that made us fight for who we are and to not let the marriage come to an end.
It didn't mean just ignoring and accepting what was pulling us apart but that we had to take stock on what we wanted and make the stand and get help to stay together becoming stronger after each near fall out.

Some people have not understood why we have stayed together because of what was going on (the last earlier this year) and seemed to suggest that they would walk away and would even support me if I did.
Now that is of some comfort but like every other time something deep was making me want to keep what was sacred - our marriage - and so with God on our side we have come through this dark valley.

The study said this:

Song of Solomon 8:7
7Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it.

Marriage is God's idea, and it's a good one. But if you're looking for someone who can be everything, you'll be disappointed! When you marry someone you take on their weaknesses as well as their strengths. It's a package deal. By expecting perfection, you're asking for more than either of you are capable of giving. However, when you get into trouble you can count on your partner. Marriage is having someone to curl up with when the world seems cold, who's as concerned as you are when the children are ill. It's having a hand that keeps checking your brow when you aren't well, and a shoulder to cry on when they lower a loved one into the ground.

To the one you marry you're saying, 'When my time comes to leave this world, it's your face I want to kiss goodbye. It's your hand I want to hold as I slip into eternity. I want to look into your eyes and see that I mattered. Not what I looked like, or how much money I made, or even how talented I was. No, I want to look into the eyes of someone who loved me and see that I mattered!' 

If you've been too busy lately, or just forgetful, take a moment and let your spouse know how much you appreciate them.

This was part of what I felt deep down.
We all have our "crosses to bear" but in the end it is Harry who I want to have there for me and me for him, for the things mentioned above.

1 comment :

  1. I love this post! we live in a society that tells us that if we want to we can just dissolve a marriage and it really won't be a big deal. My husband and I have been attending an awesome marriage study for the last few weeks, We have a strong marriage, but we know it can always be better. I have never seen a curriculum like the one we are doing. It is Phenomenal. It is called Love and Respect by Dr. Emmerson Eggerichs. you can check it out at
    I love this study and it is eye opening. Thanks for sharing your heart!